For the Birds

This morning, just as everyone seemed to be getting out the door and on with their day, the skies opened up. The street went from speckled to soaked in an instant. And those rumbles in the distance? Not the garbage truck. You could practically hear the collective “aw, sh*t” across the eastern half of the state.

Except for the birds. They were lovin’ it. While stopped at a red light, I watched a posse of sparrows hopping and flapping and splashing in a giant curbside puddle. To them, the morning rainstorm was pure delight.

I need the rain. It reminds me to appreciate the sunshine and the flowers. That brighter days always lie ahead. It nourishes the trees that provide shade on my lunchtime walks and brings a twinkle to their leaves, which will soon turn fiery shades of orange, yellow, and red. I need the snowfall. It reminds me that warmer days will come. I need the hazy, hot, and humid days to remind me that a break is always just around the corner. I need it all.

If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome, then New England’s widely varying weather should be a source of comfort and peace of mind to its inhabitants.

Long story short: I simply refuse to complain about the weather. Sure, it gets me down sometimes, but a rainy day is just that. A day. It passes and I move forward. That’s the nature of nature.

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2010 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because my happily ever after has four seasons. (Photo by doortoriver via Creative Commons.)

Gratitude Roundup: Summer Lovin’

Alas, (not to be confused with  “at last”) it’s fall. Sweaters and pumpkin spice lattes are just around the bend. Scarves, too. (I love scarves!) And even though the calendar still says we have two more weeks of summer, I’ll always associate September 1 with fall’s unofficial start. Maybe it’s the latent meteorologist in me . . .

But before I usher in autumn, I must pay homage it its spunky little sister. This year’s summer was filled with things to love, both big and small. Such as: 

  • Park trips aplenty with the pups and my beloved
  • My best pal moving back east
  • An indulgent, two-hour yin + vinyasa workshop with YogaThree’s Chanel Luck and Bonnie Argo
  • Upleveling my life with creativity coach extraordinaire, Christine Kane
  • An outdoor yoga class in the DeCordova sculpture park
  • Learning how to hold ’em and fold ’em
  • A new car (after a year-plus of being a one-car family)
  • Hosting a fancy-pants dinner party at the Liberty Hotel (even though the hotel lost our flowers)
  • My hair got crazy long
  • Perfecting the art of cold-brewed iced coffee (thanks to smallnotebook)
  • Front-row seats to see Willie Nelson at the House of Blues (and access, to the fancy-pants Foundation Lounge)
  • Laughing in yoga classes with Boston’s omgal, Rebecca
  • Cupcakes and iced coffee on the porch of a yellow Victorian with my best pal
  • Discovering lovely, serene sittin’ spots around town
  • Getting my geek on with this uber-addictive card game
  • Digging my toes in the sand while sitting beneath my beach umbrella
  • Taking lunchtime walks and snapping photos (like the one above) on my cell phone
  • Falling in love with croonsmith Ray LaMontagne
  • Playing bocce (win!) and mini golf (let’s not talk about that score)
  • A leisurely, cloudy morning spent at a harborside coffee shop (with a new notebook in tow)
  • A foodie gift bag from a friend, which included the most lovely jar of dandelion honey from Italy
  • Trying new flavors at the ice cream stand up the street from my house (graham central—yum!)
  • Eating raspberries in the parking lot at Russell Orchards, fresh from the field, still warm from the sun

I’m a simple pleasures kinda gal. Sure, a week on an island would have been lovely. But my memory of those raspberries is priceless . . .

"That much gathers more is true on every plane of existence."                                                                     --Charles Haanel

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2010 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because, so often, the little things can add up to something spectacular. 

Should We Talk About the Weather?

flip flops in december One of my least favorite topics of conversation is the weather--only because it's usually riddled with complaints. Too hot, too cold, too sunny, too grey. I do my best to avoid ganging up on Mother Nature, even though she can be a tempramental lady sometimes. Occasionally though, she's a saint--delivering us an unexpected, gorgeous day.

Today was 72 degrees and sunny. Today. December 3. In New England. Oh, Mother Nature, I could kiss you for this unexpected treat. I (almost) don't care what tomorrow brings. Or the next day. Those torrential downpours this morning on the dog walk are a distant memory. Because today I ate my lunch outside. In a short sleeve shirt.

New England: this is why I love you!

"Sunshine is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up, snow is exhilirating; there really is no such thing as bad weather, only different kinds of good weather."                                                                                                                       --John Ruskin

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space--mentally and physically--to live happily ever after . . . no matter the weather forecast. (Photo by David L. Ryan/Boston Globe staff.)

I'm Gathering the Colors

accordian 2 My summer has been quiet but rich in simple pleasures. Soft-serve cones with rainbow sprinkles, outdoor yoga sessions, mini golf, sunrise walks and sunset runs, dramatic skies, leisurely seafood feasts, afternoons reading on the patio, quality time on park benches, fresh raspberries in my lemonade, sunbeam naps with my old cat, lush flowers beckoning me to stop and sniff. The list is long, but I've downloaded each and every sensation of the season.

"Gathering the colors," one of my yoga instructors called it, referring to the children's storybook, FrederickThe book is about a little field mouse who knows how valuable it is to have a harvest of vibrant, enjoyable memories to draw from that can help you get through more challenging times that inevitably lie ahead.

So, from here on out--and until further notice--I'm committed to focusing on everything that's bright and living and lush in experience. Such as:

  • Brushing my hand across the lavender leaves
  • Tuning in to the steady hum of insect chirps
  • Sucking down wedges of watermelon before the juices drip down my wrist
  • Watching the blue jays, cardinals, finches, and doves mingle and dine at our bird feeder
  • Enjoying the sunshine on my shoulders and the warm whisk of wind by my ears
  • Stopping to take in the talents of a street musician
  • Savoring local and in-season produce
  • Walking barefoot across the grass
  • Breathing deep

"Supplies," Frederick calls them. Even more essential than a scarf and gloves for this New England girl, I say.

 _________________________________________________________________________ © 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space--mentally and physically--to live happily ever after. (Photo taken in the Boston Public Garden during my summer staycation)

Road Rage Is Mental Clutter

nm_european_vacation_081125_mn I've been thinking a lot about bicycling lately. Mostly because I recently helped out my brother who was competing in a 12-hour mountain bike race, but also because I've noticed myself experiencing road rage toward the cyclists with whom I share the road.

Me? Road rage? What's that all about? I'm a nice person. I'm all for the environment and eco-friendly actions. Why so hostile? Truth be told, I'm afraid of hitting one of them with my car. Terrified. Their elbow hitting my sideview mirror; them taking a spill, me veering to avoid catastrophe. Or worse--a right-hand turn, bad timing, and a catapulting body. Broken bones and ambulances.

So, when I'm driving beside a cyclist and trying to pass them so that I can get where I need to be a minute faster, I curse them. Stupid bike people and your stupid shorts and stupid helmets. Get the *#$&  out of my way. Occasionally, I displace some of my vitriol on the state, wishing our narrow New England roads had bike lanes or that there were fewer cars on the road. But it's usually the former.

As a corporate communicator, I'm always encouraging writers to put themselves in the recipient's shoes. How does the cyclist feel sandwiched between an SUV and a curb? Is he worried about his safety? Cursing at the cars on the road? Using that information, is there a better way to approach the situation?

Instead of thinking angry thoughts, why not try something more kind and affirmative. Something like: "Hey there, biker person. Look at you doing good for the environment--and your health. Way to go! Hope your travels are happy and safe. Please don't forget to use your hand signals, okay? Take care!"

I never curse all those roadkill squirrels for being so dumb as to run out into traffic. Instead I name them and offer up a little silent eulogy. So, how about a few kind words for that guy riding his bike down School Street with all the cars?

The thoughts that fill our heads are not unlike the contents of the hallway closet. Keep things orderly and all is well. But once things start to get out of control, everything else goes sour. A little mindfulness will take care of that.

What sets you reeling on a tirade of negative thoughts? What quick fix can you make to turn around your perspective on the situation?

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space--mentally and physically--to live happily ever after. (Image from National Lampoon's European Vacation. Say it with me now: Rrrrrrusty.)

A Permanent Vacation

A glass of dessert wine out on the patio at dusk Today is the first official day of my staycation, and I'm wrapping up the day with a glass of muscat that has been sitting in my wine rack for far too long. After all, I'm on vacation--so why not celebrate a little, right? It has been a long, leisurely day, complete with a yoga class, stroll through Boston's Public Garden, an iced Americano, a visit to a local day spa, lunch & dinner on my patio, and now a glass of dessert wine. [Edit: Add in a cup of vanilla soft serve with rainbow sprinkles.]

All that leisurely goodness has got me thinking: What if every day could be a vacation day? Would it lose its specialness? Shouldn't every day be special? Instead, we (read: I) seemingly trudge through our days. It's almost Friday. It's almost 5 o'clock. Blech. Enough.

So, what is it that I love most about vacations?

  • The anticipation of all that lies ahead
  • New sights, sounds, and experiences
  • Good food
  • Good company
  • Traveling lightly (i.e., having occasions to wear all of my shoes)

While I may not be able to hang out in Sonoma, attend yoga camp, or dine at Henrietta's  Table every day, I  can certainly cultivate that same feeling of pure enjoyment, of having everything I want--and everything I need. While my everyday life may not be packed with as many leisurely activities as today, with a little extra awareness and a shift in perspective, even the seemngly mundane can be fabulous.

A former yoga teacher of mine lives by a similar philosophy where every day and every thing is The Best. The best sunset ever. The best strawberry ever. The best roll of paper towels ever. Truthfully, we all know that not everything can be that rosy all the time, but just putting your mind in glass-completely-full perspective is 90% of the battle. Absorbtion comes with time--and practice.

Wouldn't you like to go on a permanent vacation?

You can! You know that fancy bar of soap in your linen closet? Unwrap it, set it out next to the sink in a pretty little dish, and enjoy its triple-milled bubbles and French lavender aroma. Burn that decorative candle. Wear that fancy perfume or pair of earings. Take lots of photos. Sit on a park bench and soak in the sights. Savor dessert. Uncork that old bottle of dessert wine.

What are you waiting for?

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Because less really is more.

Something There Is that Doesn't Love a Wall

mending wall With the sky bright blue and a weekend without too many to-dos, I spent a lot of time outdoors this past weekend. Several hours reading--and marking up--my copy of Patti Digh's Life is a Verb, sipping iced raspberry green tea out on the patio, dipping every vegetable I could get my hands on into my doctored-up humus, marveling at the upside-down sky while in a standing split on top of my backyard hill, and taking lots and lots of walks. On these walks, I couldn't help but notice, it seems that only the little kids say hello. Unabashed hellos with wildly flailing hands and "outdoor" voices.

"Hihihi!" called out one little girl with plush, cupcake-like pigtails and pink shorts, her grandfather back in the distance.

"Hieeeee," squeaked a toddling boy dressed in Nemo pull-ups and splashing in his inflatable pool. His mother kept her back turned as I waved and squeaked back a hieeee.

And then there was Anthony, the bespectacled four-year-old who shouted out, "Can I pet your puppy?" as we walked by and then proceeded to wrap his arms around our old pooch Inky's neck and tell us how much he loved our dog and that he, too, had a puppy--a husky pup named Shadow--and that we could come over and meet him sometime soon. Whew. His parents encouraged him to say goodbye to "our puppy" and to let us go on our way. Truth be told--I was okay with engaging in preschool banter with a neighbor kid. I know that, in a couple of years, Anthony, the pull-ups kid, and cupcake curls will stop calling out their friendly hellos and extending hugs to docile neighborhood dogs. And that bums me out.

I attended this little utopia of a university out in Pennsylvania where everyone said hi to one another, whether you knew each other or not. I remember the first few times I was hello'd by smiling strangers, I didn't really know what to make of it. Being a third-generation New Englander, that's just not the way it's done back home. Why is that? What happens to us as we get older? And what was it about my little utopia that gave us all permission again to say hi to a stranger? The only thing that makes us strangers is the fact that we havn't yet said hello. Right?

There's a chapter in Patti Digh's book titled "Just Wave." She talks about the subtext of this gesture, calling it "a recognition of humanity on both . . . parts--a connection, however brief." Back when I was in my yoga teacher training program and giving it my all to make that connection--however brief--with my students, I had a quote from Chopra's Seven Spiritual Laws of Success (page 65, I think) that I would repeat over and over to myself : "When you experience uncertainty, you're on the right path, so don't give up." Those words kept me from keeling over mid-instruction--and did a little something to relieve the pressure of a "perfect" delivery.

Several months into teaching, I noticed my mantra had unknowingly morphed. Uncertainty had been replaced with connection. What I had been repeating over and over to myself was this:

"When you experience humanity, you're on the right path, so don't give up."

These moments of humanity, these extended connections with a community of strangers-turned-friends, made me feel like I was five years old again. Completely oblivious to Frost's walls.

So, what is it about our cold, long, New England winters; our reservedness; our need for privacy and boundaries that holds us back? When's the last time you made a connection with the person behind the check-out counter, next to you on the train, or walking down the sidewalk? What's stopping you? Do you need a double-dog dare?

_________________________________________________________________________ © 2009 Good Karma Housekeeping. Making the space--both mentally and physically--to live happily ever after. (photo © Pamela Glaysher)

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